So you are wanting to find your perfect Christ-built man? Maybe the first thing to do is examine and see if you are a Christ-built woman. There are probably just as many men looking for their Christ-built woman as there are women looking for their Christ-built man.
If we let Christ shine through us, true beauty will be seen.
Also, if we seek men below our standards, then we are not seeking complete trust in God. When you find a guy that you are considering to date, listen to what God has to say. Take time in prayer to see what he wants. If you are unsure of what God is telling you, then keep spending time in prayer. God will keep the man around if he is really the one.
Another way to see if this guy has potential is to ask others on their opinion. Sometimes people your own age may only tell you what you want to hear, so it may always be best to go to someone older for advice. Some people who I will look to in the future are my parents. God placed them on this earth to help grow me into what I am. Out of anyone, I would appreciate their opinions of a guy. If anything, parents or looked up to adults can be great prayer partners through your journey.
In today's world, I feel like a reason that men are not up to their potential is because that women are setting their standards low. If women raised the bar on how they want their men, then today's men may work harder. God will respect you in that.
Ladies, we need to quit forming wimps out of men. We need to let them win our heart. We need to let them take the initiative. With that being said, we must not throw ourselves at men to get their attention. Guys need to try harder to win us over. If we flirt over every guy, then we are taking God's idea of love too lightly.
Being a girl, I know that it is not too hard for a guy to get me to like him. Just that little bit of attention can do the trick. A lesson that I've learned is to be very careful. Putting your heart and emotions into a guy can be very painful. Giving away part of your innocence to a guy can really emotionally hurt you. You should even be careful what you say to a guy. A guy may be your boyfriend, or even just a friend, but you should always be careful on what you openly say to a guy. Pouring your emotions and thoughts can cause you to give part of your heart to him. When he leaves your life, your heart may hurt.
Guys were created to pursue....and guess what...we were created to be pursued. Oh come on, any girl has dreams of being in that fairy tale where Prince Charming comes to save the princess (you) after having searched the whole land or slaying the dragon. I'm not a guy, but I can guess that men want a girl who they must work to win her heart. They do not want a girl that is easy to get because she throws herself at him. Sure, the guy may respond at first if you throw yourself at him, but you may lose a lot of respect from him.
Your future man must honor your heart. To me, I feel like a great way to have him honor you is by going to your parents. Call me old fashion, but I would love my man to go to my father to ask for my hand in marriage. He will be honoring you by honoring your parents' wishes. It will also show that he is more serious about having you in his life. Having your parents become prayer partners and counselors will help build your relationship.
I think one problem that I have faced before is giving my entire heart to a guy at the beginning of the relationship. That left for nothing new and exciting in the relationship. I find that it would be more exciting if you slowly spent time discovering things about each other. Now, I don't even think I could really say "I love you" to a guy until he proposed to me.
Now to a more risky subject...giving yourself away to a guy who is not your husband.
The simple words "I love you" automatically raise the emotional bar for a girl. Giving yourself away sexually can completely ruin your heart. Being at a college where there is a dress code, I truly believe that modest is hottest. Before, getting the attention of a guy from how I dressed made me feel...flattered. I felt...noticed. Did I really want to be noticed in that way though? I mean guys are a lot more visual. When I thought they thought I was cute, they were thinking a lot more sexual than that. Do I want to be noticed like that?
Dressing modestly adds to the mysteriousness of women. Your body should be on reserve for your future husband. We do not want to cause men to stumble because we were showing off too much.
God wants to protect us so we are set-apart princesses.
I will finish this tomorrow :)
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. -Proverbs 4:23
In today's world, I feel like a reason that men are not up to their potential is because that women are setting their standards low. If women raised the bar on how they want their men, then today's men may work harder. God will respect you in that.
Ladies, we need to quit forming wimps out of men. We need to let them win our heart. We need to let them take the initiative. With that being said, we must not throw ourselves at men to get their attention. Guys need to try harder to win us over. If we flirt over every guy, then we are taking God's idea of love too lightly.
Being a girl, I know that it is not too hard for a guy to get me to like him. Just that little bit of attention can do the trick. A lesson that I've learned is to be very careful. Putting your heart and emotions into a guy can be very painful. Giving away part of your innocence to a guy can really emotionally hurt you. You should even be careful what you say to a guy. A guy may be your boyfriend, or even just a friend, but you should always be careful on what you openly say to a guy. Pouring your emotions and thoughts can cause you to give part of your heart to him. When he leaves your life, your heart may hurt.
Guys were created to pursue....and guess what...we were created to be pursued. Oh come on, any girl has dreams of being in that fairy tale where Prince Charming comes to save the princess (you) after having searched the whole land or slaying the dragon. I'm not a guy, but I can guess that men want a girl who they must work to win her heart. They do not want a girl that is easy to get because she throws herself at him. Sure, the guy may respond at first if you throw yourself at him, but you may lose a lot of respect from him.
Your future man must honor your heart. To me, I feel like a great way to have him honor you is by going to your parents. Call me old fashion, but I would love my man to go to my father to ask for my hand in marriage. He will be honoring you by honoring your parents' wishes. It will also show that he is more serious about having you in his life. Having your parents become prayer partners and counselors will help build your relationship.
I think one problem that I have faced before is giving my entire heart to a guy at the beginning of the relationship. That left for nothing new and exciting in the relationship. I find that it would be more exciting if you slowly spent time discovering things about each other. Now, I don't even think I could really say "I love you" to a guy until he proposed to me.
Now to a more risky subject...giving yourself away to a guy who is not your husband.
The simple words "I love you" automatically raise the emotional bar for a girl. Giving yourself away sexually can completely ruin your heart. Being at a college where there is a dress code, I truly believe that modest is hottest. Before, getting the attention of a guy from how I dressed made me feel...flattered. I felt...noticed. Did I really want to be noticed in that way though? I mean guys are a lot more visual. When I thought they thought I was cute, they were thinking a lot more sexual than that. Do I want to be noticed like that?
Dressing modestly adds to the mysteriousness of women. Your body should be on reserve for your future husband. We do not want to cause men to stumble because we were showing off too much.
God wants to protect us so we are set-apart princesses.
I will finish this tomorrow :)
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. -Proverbs 4:23
I am proud to see you mature in your walk with Christ. As your imperfect earthly father I encourage you to "Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect." Let your character, holiness, maturity and love shine and never be compromised. Oh and by the way I would be glad to sit down and chat with any young man you want to send my way. He can help me clean my gun collection... just kidding.
ReplyDeleteI have been reading your blogs since you started blogging, just cause I saw it and thought, "Hmm... I wonder how it is." And liked the first one, so I read the second one. I am enjoying them so far (etc.), so... i will continue to read them probably whenever I see you post it on facebook. :) I want to respond to this topic -- to give you my perspective -- but I'm going to wait til you post the last one, so that I can respond to it as a whole.
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I just looked at the comment and realized it's not very grammatically correct, so... Lo siento. Haha.
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